Should I Write My Wedding Vows For My Wedding In Tahiti?

If you’re considering a destination wedding in Tahiti with your loved ones gathered around you, or if you’re contemplating a Tahiti – Bora Bora elopement where that will be just the two of you, it’s likely that you have been imagining saying your wedding vows in a dreamy location.

Whether on a palm-fringed beach, or atop a lookout with dramatic high rugged mountain peaks in the background, you are envisioning a Tahiti wedding ceremony of a Western style, intimate, simple but meaningful.

I’ve now been developing and officiating wedding ceremonies in Tahiti, vow renewal ceremonies, and celebrating other milestones through ceremony for years. I got professionally trained in the U.S. and became a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant®. So with many ceremonies under my belt, I have seen it all when it comes to saying your wedding vows at your destination wedding, or to sharing wedding vows with no one listening but your other half.

When you elope in Bora Bora or in Moorea, you will typically feel less pressure knowing there are no guests in attendance. It means you can absolutely allow yourself to be a little more casual in the way you’ll speak your wedding vows to your love. Remember, this is not a literature class so you want the words to simply be genuine and heartfelt.

What Are Your Options For Wedding Vows When You Elope In Tahiti?

As a Wedding Celebrant/Officiant I will develop and write a personalized ceremony that recognizes your unique personalities, that tells your story and that makes your vision of a perfect ceremony come to life. Marrying is about exchanging vows and promises, so this one part of the wedding ceremony (and the wedding day) is of the greatest importance.

Okay, but what are the options there for wedding vows?

1. Writing Your Own, Personal Vows

The vows are your personal pledge and promises you make to one another for this married life. You may choose to write your own vows and maybe wish to keep them secret from your future spouse. There is no right or wrong way for writing wedding vows. They can be short, or long. What’s important is that they are true to who you are, and they convey the love you share. What you’ll pour into this marriage. When writing personal vows, I recommend that you share them with me so that we can print them out on a nice, sturdy paper card and hand them out to you during the ceremony – rather than having you dig out folded up pieces of paper. For future brides reading this, remember: wedding dresses rarely have pockets.

Pre-written wedding vows tend to be longer as when you write them you’re not yet in the emotional whirl of the actual ceremony so be sure you’ll be able to carry out to the end!

Photo Credit 1 & 2 : Hélène Havard | Moorea Secret Wedding Ceremony

2. What Comes From The Heart Wedding Vows

Some couples may choose to not write their wedding vows in advance, but rather say what comes from their hearts on the day; of course you’ll be thinking of what you want to say before, however if you get emotional during the ceremony, which will be the case, know that it will clearly be a little difficult to say much, as both your capacity to think clear and to talk may be a bit altered in the process 😉 so go simple and straight-to-the-point!

Photo Credit : Jean-Philippe Yuam

3. “Do You” “I Do” Wedding Vows

Some couples just know that they will get super emotional during the wedding ceremony so they choose to go with traditional “Do you” “I do” wedding vows. No need to read from a paper, no need to remember things you want to say, you simply answer “I do!” when your Wedding Celebrant/Officiant prompts you to. You want these wedding vows short, so that it is not too repetitive with the rings ceremony that usually comes next. If that last option is the one that fits you best, I will craft “Do you” “I do” wedding vows that blend well in the entire story.

An alternative to the “Do you” “I do” vows, are the “Repeat after me” wedding vows. Read again the last two sentences above. Most couples find themselves feeling super emotional during the ceremony, so the shorter the lines the easier. One would think it’s easy to repeat something you’ve just heard, think again. A line over 5 words proves to be challenging in most instances.

Photo Credit: AngelM | Rangiroa Wedding Ceremony

4. Cute Wedding Vows Books

They also make for cute photos.

Photo Credit: Hélène Havard | Moorea Wedding Ceremony

Whatever your choice of wedding vows, your personalized wedding ceremony in Tahiti will be all together unique, memorable, heartfelt and true to your personal story. It will sound like no other simply because as a Wedding Celebrant I will craft each and every ceremony to a particular couple. You own your wedding ceremony, and so should you with your wedding vows. I will of course gift you a keepsake copy of the ceremony along with your wedding vows cards so you can read and re-read them over the years!